TOM #4: How to get the most out of your time

Posted on: April 24, 2022

Today’s issue of The Owner’s Manual is an invitation to integrate what you’ve learned so far (or if you’re new here, a chance to catch up.)

I’ve found, for me at least, that I need to read some things twice (or three times!) before I really get it. I mean, sure, some insights strike me right away, and I remember or start talking about and applying them immediately. 

But more often, I need to engage with information from different angles--or simply at different times--in order to notice what I missed and truly soak in the learning.

No matter how readily information soaks in for me, I need to actually work with it in order for it to become knowledge. (Turns out, that’s how we humans learn best.)

So in this issue, I’m inviting you to revisit the content of recent issues and intentionally decide how you will experiment with some of it in the next two weeks.

Was there an issue you weren’t able to yet read? 

Was there a section that you really liked that you’d benefit from revisiting?

Was there a section that you were unable to pay attention and absorb what was there for you to learn?

Were there self-coaching questions you skipped that you’d like to work through?

Perhaps you’d like to take a moment and consider how what you’ve read applies to what you’re building right now–and decide how you will integrate and apply what you’ve learned.

Whatever you choose to do, I invite you to make this upcoming fortnight about action. Do what you need to do to extract the insights and get the most out of the time and attention you’re investing in reading TOM.

  • Part 1: List of, and links to, the previous issues of TOM.
  • Part 2: Questions for deepening your learning, whether you revisit earlier TOM issues or not.

Please reach out to me if you have any questions about the content or how to apply it in your particular situation. I'd be delighted to help!

Better yet, let’s meet (virtually) and talk about it! Here’s a link to book a virtual coffee meetup with me.


Issue 1: Trust.

Challenge: We tend to put more attention on how we share bad news, but it’s how we share good news in relationships that matters more.

Resources/Tool: Active Constructive Responding

Issue 2: Change.

Challenge: Even when we want things to be different, we often struggle to make changes (that stick).

Resources/Tool: Tips for leading transitions and how to uncover and remedy Competing Commitments

Issue 3: Belonging.

Challenge: Our human drive to belong limits our ability to build strong relationships and great places to work.

Resources/Tool: How to spot “zero sum game” behavior in your company, and how to cultivate true belonging (Door #3)


Reflection Questions

Reflecting on what you've read so far...

  • What's struck a chord?
  • What has shifted for you?

Recall who you were when you started this a couple of months ago...

  • What's changed?
  • What are you already doing differently now?
  • What do you intend to do differently going forward?

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